for deployment--January 9. Of course that sent me into tears at the dinner table. I am just so worried about the actual sending him off. It seems to me kind of like death and childbirth (well, before I had a child!)--I can imagine the before, I can imagine the after, but I can't really imagine the process. I mean, what do I do when I am sending him off to the middle east for 5 months? I felt like the clock was ticking before, but now I really feel like it is speeding up.
OH Jen, tears are falling on my keyboard right now too. I feel so bad for you girl. that has to be so hard for you all. I don't know what I would do if my dh was sent overseas... I just want you to remember we are here for you and if you need to talk, cry, scream, hit the computer you come here we are here for you girl..
What do you do?:angel: I am afraid I do not have a lot of advise but I know that prayer is the ultimate gift you can give your husband while he is away! Place him in the Lord's hands and know that the father loves him more than you ever can and will watch over His child. You have a very brave man for a husband. I consider him a hero and a warrior. Thank him from the Evans family. I will also keep your dear husband and your family in prayer while he is away. God bless,:angel: Patty
That is true, Patty. And thanks to you and Kris. I had to laugh the other day because as a deployment gift I ordered dh a pocket piece that says "Fear not for I am with you" and I thought maybe I should just keep it for me.
That is true, Amy! We really have so much to be thankful for with this assignment. Most of the time I am pretty good with it (I only freaked out one drive thru guy by starting to bawl between the ordering spot and the window) and I think once we actually start it it will be okay because then we can count down until he gets home. I think we are just in that window of wanting more time here, but wanting to get it done...
That is more than understandable. You know what would be cool? Have you ever made those paper rings and connected them to count down the days until Christmas. Then each day your child cuts one off. Perhaps you guys can make five sets; one for each months. You can make them red, white, and blue. Then your child can cut one off everyday and when he cuts it you can say a prayer for his safe return and protection. Just a thought. Patty
Wow Jen I can't even imagine how hard it must be to have to be without your husband for that long and in such a place at that. You will certainly be in my prayers.
I have thought about that, Patty. My concern is that he won't get home when they say he will. They are really bad about actual dates...But maybe when it gets closer he will know something more definite and we can do that. I think we are going to go to Build a Bear after he leaves and make something for him for Valentine's Day (and I am sure Jack will want something for him, too! :lol and send it and have him send us pictures of what they are doing together. I really think that once the whole deal is underway it will be okay. If I can just not freak out in the next 3 weeks! :lol:
Jen here is a great bug HUG! I know you will be strong for him. Hopefully the 5 months will pass quickly. Thank him for his service for me and thank you for being a military wife. It takes a special kind of lady to do that. I don't know if I could. Of course we will all be here for you all along the way.
I too want to thank your husband and you for the sacrifices you both are making for our country...and my family. I'll do whatever I can to support you. Need to chat? You can im me anytime!
Jen, Wish we could all be there to give you personal support and hugs! Just know that we ARE praying for him and for you and your ds! (((((HUGS!))))) Those hugs aren't nearly as good as the real thing, but they're heartfelt!!! We'll be here, let us know if there is anything we can do!
I can't give you any advice, but I can tell you that I truly will be wishing you the very very best.. and I hope that the 5 months flies by like a summer breeze!
Sending big hugs and prayers from a BTDT mom. My husband was deployed to Iraq for a full year. It was such a difficult time; in some ways more difficult in the days before he left. I mean, preparing for a long separation from someone you love can be agonizing. It's so tough for the kids, too. You ask how do you do it? Well, you just do. As my pastor told us before Donnie's deployment, you take it day by day, hour by hour, sometimes minute by minute. I don't know who has it harder; the one who has to go or the spouse who's left behind, but God is with both of you and will be your strength. I promise! I'm here to talk if you need to. Just send me a private message and I'll forward on my email address.
