Hi, Trish! I think we've got similar families: you mentioned in another post that you have been married 19 years and have a 6 year old daughter. I think I remember another post where you said it was easy to name your homeschool when you only have one child. Anyway, I've been married 17 years and have a 6 year old son. We had come to grips with the fact that we would probably never have biological children when the Lord gave us a special gift for our tenth anniversary: a positive pregnancy test! :shock: We have another little one in Heaven, lost to a miscarriage four years ago. Thought seriously about adopting, but no leadership in that direction for now. We're thrilled to be raising our son, who is a joy and delight. Even on days when he's driving me crazy, I love to tiptoe into his room after he's asleep and just watch him breathe. Well, speaking of that little guy, I need to go check on what he's up to - it's awfully quiet right now..... Blessings, Anne
We do I was married 13 years before I found out I was pregrant with Vicki. It really blew my socks off. I wouldn't trade her for anything even in the bad days. I did have a miscarriage when Vicki was around 18 months old. I can't wait to one day see my child. I don't know if it was a boy or girl. Vicki does have ADHD and ODD. Somedays are really hard. I also have 2 stepchildren who are 31 and 29 years old. The oldest is a boy and youngest is a girl. They have children of their own. 3 of my grandchildren are older than Vicki only one is younger. I have a mixed up family.
Not mixed up, special! Do your grandchildren live close enough that Vicki has an opportunity to play with them? We too don't know whether the baby we lost is a boy or a girl. Sometimes our ds asks and we tell him we're not sure if he has a brother or a sister. He/she would have been born around our son's 3rd b-day. In a lot of ways, I'm glad it worked out that we had a child "later" than sooner. Dh & I had a long time together without children and it really bonded us (not that couples that start a family right away aren't bonded - I'm not trying to start a debate!!!!). But our work is such that without children we were together nearly 24/7. Sometimes I really miss that togetherness, although I wouldn't want to not have my ds! As he's gotten older, we've done the team thing more, ds just tags along, too. Well, I'm rambling. Have a great day! Anne
Vicki can see them anytime she wants to. They live just down the road. We also go to church with them. I know that God knows what he is doing. I believe I wasn't ready to be a mother until God gave me her. My stepdaughter would have been very jealous. I am thankful it tunred out the way it did. It really made appreciate children a lot more. Everyday is special.
I, too, lost one that would now be five. I always thought it was a boy...Aaron Christopher...but we never knew for sure. I remember at the time, an on-line friend told me that the little one she lost would be greating him at the gates of Heaven, and they would be playing together up there.... It just conjured up a picture of children running and laughing together in a meadow...sort of like the opening of the "Little House" TV shows...., with Jesus following behind them at a leasurely pace.
Have you ever heard the song about God's Rocking Chair. I sit and think about the Lord rocking my child.Their was a lady that sung that song in a talent show we had church. She didn't know I had a miscarriage about 2 years before. She started the song and I cried the whole time. I wasn't the only one crying. That is a beautiful song. I know that my child could not be in better hands. To me that is one more reason to go to heaven for. God does know what is best.
I think about how my little one is never going to feel pain, disappointment, sorrow, etc. because he/she just lived a few short weeks in my womb before heading for the arms of Jesus. I don't know how arrivals are done in Heaven, but I know my Grandpa was probably right there to greet his great-grandchild! If there is fishing in Heaven, that's what they are probably up to right now. Okay, probably no fishing, 'cause the fishies might get hurt! I've never heard the song God's Rocking Chair. One that got me weeping in church was called Ressurection Ground, talking about a family losing a small child and that child's grave not being a dead end, but being "ressurection ground!" I don't have a grave to visit, but I know I will see my little one! God is so good to us. Anne
A good friend lost a baby during the third trimester. She had to carry it another week and a half until she delivered it, knowing it was dead. It was a very difficult time for the family. I went to the memorial service. I was AMAZED at what a wonderful, encouraging, sensitive job her pastor did with that service! I think if we were looking for a church home, I would have joined there on the spot just based on that!
