It seems homeschooling hasn't totally kept my kids from having to deal with a bully. We live in at a dead end road. At the end is a park which I can see from the house. The older boys are allowed to play there after they finish school and until now there has been no problem. Well yesterday we were suppose to go to homeschool group. For once we would actually be on time. That is until it came time to put shoes on. Collin's one shoe seemed to be missing. We searched to whole house top to bottom and still couldn't find the shoe. Finally realizing the time it was and the fact that daddy was going to be picking us up for his work's thanksgiving luncheon. I ran us all to the store to buy Collin a new pair of shoes (he only has the one pair). Ok, so fast forward to last night. His friend comes to the door with his shoe. Apperantly someone at the park took it from him and buried it. I dont' understand why Collin's didn't come tell me as soon as it happened? Why did he have us searching the whole house for 2 hours yesterday when he knew it was buried at the park. I am angry that some kid would do this in the first place but I am also confused at why he wouldn't tell me this happened.
Maybe he was afraid you would make him go face the bully or he might have been ashamed that he "let" the bully take his shoe in the first place. I feel so sorry for your son for having been put in this position. I can't stand a bully and this week I found out one of our sons has been being a bully to our girls when they were where nobody could hear them. I was so upset and disappointed with him. He is 17 and they are 13 and 8! I hope your son is okay. Beth
We are going through something like that right now too. My youngest dd is not getting along with a neighborhood boy, he seems to pick on her all the time. It upset her she cried for about 1 hour last night. He is always hitting her. The mother don't understand, she said it's nothing to worry about he does that till he gets to know the kids. HMMMMM that is strange to me. So, today she is staying away.
My boys have had problems at a near by church before with two 15 year old boys. My boys are 9. Not a good thing either. I don't have advice for you. I don't have advice for me except don't allow my boys to be around those boys. Lorna
Make sure Collin knows that you are not mad at HIM. If you get upset, he might think it's his "fault" in some way and you're upset with him when you're upset with the bully and with the situation. That may be a little about why it was hidden from you. He probably just needs lots of reassurance that you are behind him, and that it's OK for him to come to you with problems like this.
