I just spent nearly 1/2 an hour carefully wording my reply to the yanked thread, and when I posted, I couldn't!!! In short I will say everybody has to do for their family what they think is best. In my family, I'm responsible for my kids' Christian upbringing. It's that simple and I'm cool with that. Very few men head their family like they should. In my case my husband does everything else expected of him, just not this. Can we all say our husbands truly take over as head of the family, not leaving us wives to handle anything on our own? Jackie's hand is probably up. Brooke, where is your husband when your son is trying to get one over? If he's there handling it, cool, if not.... I did feel attacked in the other thread, but I don't think I came off at anyone else. My first post was telling Brooke my kid doesn't want to go to church, either. Brooke and Jackie both thought I was wrong to let him sit out and said so in a bunch of replies. Other people disagreed with me, too. I didn't put down anyone's choices within their family. I was only stating thatI'm doing what I feel is right for us and I don't plan to change it. I must be doing something right because Kevin is 18, doesn't smoke or drink and he's still a virgin. I might not be as devout and submissive as most of you girls, but I think I'm doing okay. What I do want to speak out against is, someone said Kathe was inciting a pack mentality by wondering where I was, but the only pack I saw were the ones speaking against me. If I remember right she's been a victim of that, too. Brenda, I think, said comments get over analyzed and I think that's true. I also think we give unsolicited advice sometimes and that starts the ball rolling. At atoz they are doing a thing where if you just want to vent without creating differences, you say so by posting 'a vent' with the thread title. I think that would be cool here.
No need to stick up for me girl, but thanks. Exactly what I predicted is what happened. Except THIS time, not only was my intention misconstrued, but the apparently omniscient accuser has decided any and all rebuttals will be a lie and also knows my intentions so I need not explain them. Oh, Becky, I won't be replying to your email where you asked me how my week was. Ask the omniscient one instead.
Another thing I think we need to do is behave like we all live on the same street. I don't think we'd be so quick to lay each other out and point fingers if we lived next door to each other. We wouldn't approach a neighbor about how we think they're raising their kid, would we? So why come off at each other like that? When I come on here I try extra hard not to say anything that would be an insult, because I want to show respect. There's PLENTY that's been posted since we've been here that I DON'T agree with, but I don't feel like I have the right to tell someone my personal opinion about something they think, do or like. A last thing I think we need to do is check our hormones before we even start reading. Something got posted awhile back, during 'that' week, that just burned me up, but I let 'that' week go by before I decided to comment. It ends up I didn't comment because when I read the post a second time, after 'that' week, it didn't even read the same way. So.....
Kevin My feeling is that he is 18 and still under your roof so you can have some rules for him to follow but too many and he will leave. I can tell you don't want that. It sounds like he is a pretty good man anyway. We do need to realize he is a man at 18 years of age according to law. LOL I ask before about your husband is he Kevin's Dad too or a second marriage? If a second marriage he may feel it is your job to take care of your kid. Also some dad are wonderful providers but not able to carry our rules. It is due to their personalities. I am sure he is a wonderful man or you wouldn't be with him. All you can do is pray for Kevin to continue to become a good man and for God to lead him back. I think 18 is a hard time. Trying to decide where you fit into the real world. Have a good day Becky. You are doing fine with him if my idea counts for anything.
Chances are that if we were neighbours, we would know more about you and your home and vice versa thereby being able to understand more about what goes on and how we could best help each other out. I'm a learning individual and am learning that when we talk about our families here, it's a touchy topic and because we love them as much as we do any comment or suggestion from others can easily be misinterpreted and we can become upset about it - been there done that myself. (I feel a sermon coming on) We all need to be considerate of others here... before any of us make comments, we need to think of the person sitting on the other side of the screen and think of how our comments are going to affect the other person. WWJD? Would He sit here and engage in conversations that do absolutely nothing to bring some one up but rather bring them down making them feel horrible? I highly doubt it. Would He try to help others with suggestions and just by being a friend or a listening ear - I don't doubt it a bit. God is love and wants us to share that love with everyone else - it's hard to do so when we're too preoccupied with getting back at the other peson for something that may have offended you (by the way offense is the devil's best defense - when we offend or are offended, he's loving every minute of it). "Do not say, I'll pay you back for this wrong! Wait for the Lord, and He will deliver you." (Proverbs 20:22) "A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control" (Proverbs 29:11) "An angry man stirs up dissention, and a hot-tempered one commits many sins." (Proverbs 29:22) I sit here and think of last summer when the better part of us engaged in a thread that had to do with defending our faith and why our viewpoint was right and some couldn't understand that - some of those who also participated left here and have never come back - how sad. (I'm not looking to re-open that one at all). Then we see posts (under Christian issues much less) that went from being constructive to being less than mature for our age group... My point is this... there are many people who come to this forum who have no spritual background and here we are, a group of professing christians doing absolutely nothing to glorify God's name but instead defaming His name by engaging in activities that don't include things He would do if he was sitting here with us. When we're posting away, we all need to consciously think about what He would say if He sitting right beside you or I. How can God's people make His name great? * By showing His character through our actions * By their witness * By our service * Our lifestyle should reflect the Fruits of the Spirit Here's a little something to think about... When we are born we inherit a name. With it comes a repuation to live up to or to try to change. The name we bear as kingdom citizens is the only name that will last forever. As we represent God's name, individually or collectively, what is our contribution to the eternal name we share as His people? Brenda
LOLOL!!! Lorna, I'm betting Kevin will be here until he's 50!!! I often tell him he'll still be here when he's an old man, and he says good, we can duke it out with our canes! He better hope I don't have a heavy duty one!
AHEM. Becky, would that be a quad cane or a single post cane :lol: Sure hope those canes don't have ice picks on the bottom of them. Take care, have fun and both of you don't get hurt being OLD kids :lol:
LOL!! I guess I could use mine to hook the back of his wheelchair! He got quite adept at using a wheelchair after his operation. He raised the ire of a security guard at the mall once for zooming around too fast.
Picture this ladies... Becky and Kevin drag racing down the halls of a nursing home - wouldn't that be a sight to see :lol:
It's not so bad having 21 years between me and Kevin, but there's 35 between me and Jeannie. I will be no use to her after awhile. I know most people don't mind having a baby evenin their 40's, but I was not thrilled when I found out I was expecting.
Today our pastor said an interesting thing. The sermon was on the storms we endure in our lives, and the talk turned to teens who don't want to be in church. He said these kids think they know it all, but one day when they're older they'll wake up and realize they don't know it all. Precisely said, I think.
I'm not understanding. It could be said I am of *little use* to my kids now. I have MS and some days can't even dress myself. I fall over a lot, I can't carry my toddler very often, sometimes I can't get off the couch long enough to make a meal, my teen has to do it. Hey, some days I can't even make it to the bathroom. So, I'm of "no use"... but I'm their mom, and they love me just as I love them. We don't have to be of use to those we love! (and I'm only 38 btw)
I was just saying I didn't want to have a child that late in my life. Most women don't see it that way, i found, but that's just how I feel. Our pastor's wife has MS, so I understand what you're saying about how rough it can get for you.
Yup! Hopefully we won't be pushing Glenda in the wheel chair while drag racing with her son up the Trans Canada highway - that would be quite the site to see. I wonder who will be faster For all to know - Glenda is a riot to be around (her signature says Crazier than a bag of hammers - that might be my fault - but it's not off by much it tends to rub off after while).
God gave me a baby late in life - but I asked for it! I'da had more too, if I could. I really always wanted six kids. We lost four between our first two, and two more between our last two. So, I have ten kids, just only have four here with me. I struggle sometimes with wanting, but try to hold on to the fact that G od does give us whats best for us, even when I don't FEEL like thats true.
my kid doesn't want to go to church, either. Brooke and Jackie both thought I was wrong to let him sit out and said so in a bunch of replies. Other people disagreed with me, too. I didn't put down anyone's choices within their family. I was only stating thatI'm doing what I feel is right for us and I don't plan to change it. I must be doing something right because Kevin is 18, doesn't smoke or drink and he's still a virgin. I might not be as devout and submissive as most of you girls, but I think I'm doing okay. ~ you know something? More people get turned off church be being forced to go. Now, at 8 yrs old it's different. At 18 one is an adult in many ways. Why force someone to go and risk him hating it becasue of you? Better to pray, pray, pray, live a Godly life in front of him and pray some more. I'll be praying with you!
And if I may gloat- Kevin talks to my mom each day on the phone, and he told her he wants to marry a girl who is also a virgin. I'm betting I'm worrying about the wrong one. From what Kevin tells my mom he has himself more together than I give him credit for. Just the fact that he calls his grandma each day says something about him, I think. plus, he's not ashamed to let friends who happen by know he's talking to her. I don't know if I posted this or not but it's really cute- Some time ago a girl liked Kevin. She called him this one day and I listened in on another phone for a few minutes. She was telling him she wanted kids and all that, and he was like, no thanks, especially since she was only 14!. This girl says to him that she didn't think he loved her. He was silent and then she demanded that he tell her who he loved the most of all. Kevin, my then maybe 17 year old big mouth, disobedient child says- with pride-' I love my grandma most of all!!' I did something right somewhere.
