My son has been seeing a girl for only a few months but he's head over heals for her. He wants to give her a ring for valentines day. Not a promise ring just a ring. He has no money and I don't want to spend a lot so i got out my jewlery box and was looking through my rings from when my hubby and I were first married and he found one that he wants to get cleaned and sized for her.. Do think that's a cheap cheesy thing to do?? Angela
Hmmmm....I'm actually just thinking from the girl's perspective. Will she think that it means a promise? We can get a little loopy when we get a ring on Valentine's Day.
I'm with Brooke. A ring, even one like this, implies a great deal to a girl. If it has to be jewelry, a necklace would be nice. Also, how old is he? That would also make a difference....
I agree...a ring may not be view as "just jewelry". I think a necklace or bracelet would be better, too. If he has any crafting skills, he might consider making something for her.
I'm with the others. I'd have spun myself into a tizzy if a boyfriend gave me a ring on Valentine's Day... especially if it was "his mom's ring."
Young girl, mom's ring? I personally wouldn't give any of my jewelry to a girl he has known for a few months. Save it for when he knows her long enough to be sure he wants to spend his life with her. She could be gone in a month or two and so will your ring. ... and I agree about the girl taking it to mean much more. Mom's jewelry is special. It has no place on just anybody. I didn't get my MILs jewelry until after I was married. He should get her some flowers. If she appreciates the flowers, just think how much she will enjoy your ring once he knows she is a keeper.
That's what I was afraid of.. These two are the weirdest teenagers in a relationship I have EVER seen.. They have purity pacts for themselves and to each other as well. He was wanting the ring as a promise to her that he would keep pure and not cross any of their boundries and that he would always treat her with respect. Not a promise to marry her. You would think they've been together for YEARS.. The family is friends with ours and I know this young lady very well. I do NOT want to rush anything.. They've been together for 4 months now.. I know in teenage time that's an eternity.. We may hold off on a ring.. I was thinking a locket might be something more appropriate.. I would really rather that he give her a stuffed animal and some chocolates but He's got his heart set on a ring..
Could Dad possibly explain to her how a young lady could blow the ring out of proportion? I'm guessing your son might take it better coming from Dad, especially since your son does seem to have an idea of the importance to set boundaries, etc. Dad can explain that those boundaries are not just physical, but emotional as well, and his might be crossing that....
I'm wondering how the girl's parents would feel? I agree no rings unless he intends for them to have a meaning.
I feel your ring would be too personal. I feel a ring is too personal, period, because it would be necessary to include an "awkward disclaimer". I would find a nice "initial" necklace, a necklace with the initial of her first name. There is nothing implied and it isnt a heart necklace.
They are fine with it.. My son has talked with them about it.. At first they said no that if they were still together on her bday in July he could get her a birthstone ring.. Now it's okay and they said he can replace the purity ring that has gotten too small for her hand.. I'm actually the one having mixed feelings about this now.. I don't want him feeling like he HAS to make a commitment to her because he gave her a ring..
When I was in high school my boyfriend gave me a Black Hills Gold ring. His mom worked at a large truck station and they sold this jewlery. I was his first real girlfriend and was given all kinds of Black Hills Gold jewlery when we were together.:love:
Our local Christian book store has this really awesome purity jewelry. There are necklaces, bracelets, earrings, and rings in all different styles. Maybe something like that? They have some sort of phrasing about purity and a scripture on them, so maybe it wouldn't give the wrong implication to her? ~Jeri
If a guy gave Emma a purity ring, he would be saying to her that HE plans to remain pure with HER until they marry. After all, he is giving her the ring. He isn't giving it to anybody else. This is how I would take it. This is where I think the girl could get the wrong idea. Even if her parents are fine with the ring, this doesn't mean the girl will take it the same way as your son means it. As the parent, you will have the final say. Still, I wouldn't give my ring to a girl he hasn't known for very long. Save it for his wife.
I have a 15Ds myself, and I think I would also be talking with him about his heart and if he has given it away at this point. It sounds to me from the relationship that, regardless of what they say they mean with the ring, they both might actually be using it as a "promise" ring to eventually marry. I'm not saying that is right or wrong, just wanted to offer what this teenage boy mama would be thinking if I was trying to navigate the situation in our home. Sometimes God brings people together early and other times it is youthful desires that keep people dating even if it is not the time.
