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randa
05-31-2004, 08:27 PM
Hello,
very curious, what do you do when you are homeschooling mom and pregnant at the same time.

Happily, We are expecting a new baby on the way and I am still first time homeschooling? Is it going to be a problem? My girls are now 4 and 2 1/2 yrs.old

Any advice will be greatly appreciated

Thank you
Randa

She
05-31-2004, 08:42 PM
Problem? No
Creative scheduling after the baby is born? Yes :D

Remember those days of doing nothing but sitting in the chair feeding the baby? Well...now you will be doing that while *schooling*. Then the baby will get older and then moving and getting into trouble. :)

I have a 5 year old and an 19 month old...we school while "Taz" naps. :) I'm keeping my fingers crossed that by the time he gives up naps he will be content to do his thing while brother does his school work. :cool:

Good luck and congrats on another baby. :) Somehow as mom's we make it work for US. No two families are alike and what works for one won't work for another without some tweaking.

Anonymous
05-31-2004, 09:40 PM
Do as much as you feel comfortable with, and don't get upset with the things that DON'T get done! Your oldest is still young; I know in my state you don't need to even "report" her until she's six. Anything that isn't done this year will be "caught up" on next. Feel free to rest when needed, etc.

bemax3
05-31-2004, 11:33 PM
You have plenty of time before you need to be reporting so just keep doing what you are doing now! I have my last two spaced thirteen months apart and we did just fine with my oldest at the time.

Michelle

abcTammy
06-01-2004, 09:04 AM
Congratulations:)
I agree with the ladies. Your girls are young and everyone can make adjustments as needed. There are many possible ways to contine on while welcoming in a new baby. One might be to shorten the length of your hs day and or the number of days you hs. Depending on the structure of your hs, consider implementing the changes before the baby arrives.
Best wishes~:) Tammy

TinaTx
06-01-2004, 04:50 PM
Randa....

YES YES! It can be done!

At first I felt guilty about all the rest and sleep I needed. The other two are young, so just read and relax.

I think my worst fear before i had No. 3 was not being able to do it as planned. I was right! LOL So much for the plan.

My plan was this *I had NO plan...ds no. 3 decided at the time*. HA.

At first it was not too hard because the baby slept a lot. What I did do was have dh drag a huge oversized couch in our schoolroom. Ds no.1 was sitting at a table learning how to write, so I wanted to be in the schoolroom... I also took in a sturdy table, complete with diapers, wipees, and cloth diaper for spit ups..... So basically I wanted a little bit of everything in the school room so I wouldn't have to leave the other two while I nursed or changed diaper on the couch. I could teach and change a messy diaper at the same time!

It wasn't until ds started to crawl, walk and otherwise get into EVERYTHING that it got a little harder. So I adjusted again.

This time period it was easier to sit at the kitchen table for crafts and some history while *The creature* was awake. When he took a nap, then we did our math and language arts in our schoolroom.. This works fine for the morning nap and the afternoon nap.

Then it gets hairy again when they go down to one nap in the afternoon. But I promise the time goes by relatively fast. Just be willing to plug along and GET SOME REST!

I had some days where I felt like crying:( and I did. Then I prayed, counted my blessings and blew off anything that day I felt stressed about.. They are happy as long as MOM stays happy.

Try to plan ahead as far as what you will need for school BEFORE and AFTER the baby gets here. That way you won't be trying to figure all that out while your not getting any sleep.

So take care of yourself and measure your progess in *inches* not miles!

Congratulations ! When are you due?

Blessings
TinaTx

randa
06-01-2004, 05:54 PM
Thank you all ladies for your support.
Tina, thank you million, I was already stressed out to fact that I might lose the idea of homeschooling. But then I thought, you know, that a blessing from God and I am sure it happened for a reason.
I have to be honest, I have soooo much fear, babies are precious little gifts but managing with 3 children might be challenging...I pray a lot for things to go much smoother and we all need each other prayers.

I'll try to finish with my dughters as much as I could until the baby arrives and then we'll have different plans

to answer you question Tina my due date might be 2/4/2005 :)
thank you all
Randa

She
06-01-2004, 08:40 PM
Randa,
Just don't make a mountain out of a mole hill. :D Just take a deep breath and know it will balance. That's what we mom's do best. :)

Ds#1 has a ground hog day birthday. :cool: Seems like all the people I know who were born under that sign are even tempered but...don't like change. Do it one way once and you always do it that way.:rolleyes:

I was just reading in a Mary Pride homeschool book about how kids need about 3-4 years to teach everything they learn in ps over 13 years. Think you can handle that? ;)

bemax3
06-01-2004, 09:02 PM
That is a very good point Sheila. My son's piano teacher is a fabulous young musician. Homeschooled her entire 18 years and not one workbook, curriculum or unit study until she was of grade nine age. At that time she took some Distance Ed. courses. Over the next couple years she completed all the requirements for high school graduation by doing those courses,writing challenge exams and taking Provincial finals. She was accepted into the Masters program at University this fall and through an application/interview process won two scholarships....one for $18,000 and one for $24,000. She is really ready to dive in for the next six years and feels none of the need to "let loose" that many fresh out high school youth feel. Nor does she feel burnt out after years and years of homework.

So, I agree that relax is the best advice for a Mom with such young children. Just enjoy them.

Michelle

Brooke
06-01-2004, 10:40 PM
Randa,

You musta just found out, girl!....and maybe I can be your "baby buddy"???!!!:D

I've been praying for the Lord to allow us to conceive again (after a vasectomy) and.....I believe the white rabbit (no pun intended) said it best..."I'm late, I'm late for a VERY important date!!!!" :eek: :D :D Close to a week late. :D :D :D Can anyone guess how happy I am???!!!

I plan to find out "officially" this week, and if I am blessed as you are, I'd be happy to offer you some support. BTW, I have prayed for at least two more kids, so if they come at the same time ;) you can always look at me and think "wow, if she can handle twins and homeschool, then I can surely handle this homeschooling stuff, too!!!"

I'll be sure to post what I find out to make it official, but I'll tell you that the other two times I was "late", I had a baby a few months later! :D

Congrats!...and if you think to, please pray for us to "pass" our test this week :cool:

randa
06-01-2004, 11:26 PM
Brook,I will pray for you and your family to have a blessed happy and healthy family.

To all of you ladies thanks for all the support.
I am blessed that we all moms share our concerns, advices and blessings.

Thank you
Randa

randa
06-01-2004, 11:29 PM
Brooke,
Just realized that I misspelled your name..Sorry:)
Randa

becky
06-01-2004, 11:32 PM
You know, Randa, my daughter watches The Magic School Bus, Between the Lions , and many different other fun but educational videos. Stock up on those. Look for Rock and Learn tapes and videos, too. It sounds like you're trying to see what you're in for. Take advantage of what's out there to help you along. Even shows like Blues Clues , Dora, and Bear in the Big Blue House teach. I fell over the day my daughter started naming off things we had to pass yet when we were going to my mom's- just like Dora reviews where she's been and where she has yet to go.

TinaTx
06-01-2004, 11:34 PM
Brooke.........!!!:eek:

I'll be praying for ya! EWWWW...sounds like good news!!!:D :D How very exciting!!! SAY ITS TRUE, SAY ITS TRUE (LOL)....

Let us know immediately when you find out! AND if your not:( you know the ole saying *TRY TRY AGAIN*:o :D



Randa.......

To tell you its all in your point of view! REALLY? I think I enjoyed my third one THE BEST!:) You know why? Because with the first one most of us are nervous wrecks *did I do it right? and all the stuff we learned and figured out,etc.*. Then on the second one, you learn *multi tasking*. It dawned on me HEY yeah I can adjust and do this and that with more than one child. Well by the time the third one comes along, you KNOW HOW to take care of a newborn AND multitask. What is there to learn? JUST ENJOY!!! I really just enjoyeed *squeezing,kissing and nibble biting* on that third one because YOUR A PRO by then. lol That third one worked into my routine so much quicker than the other two for some reason. I was hardly recuperated before I was ready to go shopping and get out.

Yes...you will have days that you feel s-t-r-e-t-c-h-e-d:eek: But that could just as easily happen with having just one child. Just continue like you have been doing, and don't put unneccessary deadlines on yourself right now.. When you don't feel good STOP.

BELIEVE ME, I learned the hard way by trying to do too much too soon that HOMESCHOOLING WILL BE THERE AFTER THE NEWBORN...*Attention: Life will return to some normalcy *is what I should have had in a neon flashing sign across my bed :D It was hard to keep that in mind the whole 9 months plus AFTER the baby, but it would have helped.

Oh well, keep us posted.

Tina

CrystalB9
06-04-2004, 09:35 AM
Brooke I know how you feel. My hubby had a vasectomy a few years ago and oh how I prayed to conceive. This past fall he got hurt playing basketball and to make a long story short he ended up hainvg a hernia. At the surgery apt the surgeon agreed to work with a urologist and preform a vas reversal at the same time allowing my insurance to cover O.R. costs. May 18th he had both surgeries and is revcovering very well and we just started trying.
Brooke I will pray for you and if you all could remember me I would so love to have another little one. My husband and I are very blessed to have a large family. My children are truly an awesome gift. We just happed to not have any children together. We were both married previously and have adopted a beautiful little girl. We have also adopted each others children.
Homeschooling and having a baby at the same time is a small concern right now. I just want to get pregnant! :D I have lots of little ones now, so I guess it will just be more of the same. I have children that are 11 and 12 who I know will be great helpers. If I conceive soon the baby would be due during our summer break. That woule be good!!

Crystal

Brooke
06-04-2004, 11:00 AM
I started to put a :( at the beginning of this post, but the Lord reminded me that my countenance should be more like :) even though I'm not pregnant...YET!

I'm learning alot right now about prayer and fasting, but I'm convicted about talking about it too much with other people.

Sorry to the OP for getting this thread off on a tangent.....we have spoken with a couple hospitals about a reversal and just can't do it right now (it would have to be private pay), but what the Lord joins together, let no man put assunder...;)...wonder if that means vas deferens, too???:eek: :D :D :D ..Sorry, I have a quirky sense of humor. :rolleyes:

Crystal, I'll be praying for you, and for others trying to conceive. I have a renewed desire to fill our quiver...

Psalm 127:
3 Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
4 As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.
5 Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate. {his...: Heb. filled his quiver with them} {speak...: or, subdue, or, destroy}
(KJV)

Well, I'll let this thread get back to the original topic. Once again, sorry to get sidetracked! :)

randa
06-04-2004, 11:08 AM
Brooke
Don't give up you can always try again and we will all pray for you and your family.

Crystal
you will have our prayer too best of luck

Randa

CrystalB9
06-04-2004, 11:52 AM
Thank you Brooke and Randa. I really appreciate all prayers.

:) Crystal

Anonymous
06-04-2004, 12:37 PM
Ladies, on that note I would like to share about a friend that has almost literally had a baby dropped in her lap! They have one child, had difficulty conceiving him plus a VERY difficult, dangerous pregnancy. He was, quite literally, a miracle baby. Anyway, they are hoping to adopt a child from Honduras (LONG story!). So about a week ago, they were contacted ("friend of a friend") about a three month old boy in Missouri whose mother (19 and single) decided it would be best for the baby to give him up. They went down there I think it was one week ago today, everything went through perfectly, and they are on their way home with a new son! God is a worker of miracles, whether it be in reversing operations, bringing "unworking" parts to where they work perfectly, or cutting through bureaucratic red tape.

CrystalB9
06-04-2004, 12:55 PM
Jackie you are so right! Thanks for sharing that. I remember you telling us about that in Hershey. That is just awesome - God is an awesome God.

Crystal

She
06-04-2004, 09:10 PM
With my kids I got pregnant when I stopped thinking about it.

1st one - I quit a stressful job and got pregnant the next week HA!
2nd one - when we were out of town during the "prime time" and weren't taking advantage of *prime time*. Anyway...must have got pregnant the day after we got back.

Stress is a horrible thing on our bodies and even though we know it...sometimes it's hard not to think about certain things. Be thankful for what you have and enjoy the ride.

I've known too many people who try for years and never conceive until something changes (new job, adoption of a child, whatever) then WAHOO! :D

Just keep practicing! :p

Brooke
06-05-2004, 10:55 AM
Here is something interesting to add to She's post. I was way "late" for me and I was so excited cuz that has only happened two other times :D . I then had a negative pregnancy test and I told my best friend, "well, I bet I start tomorrow now that I've had a jolt to my psyche." And sure enough, I did. I had let my desire consume me. It was like I woke up! I realized that I had been neglecting my home and myself and immersing myself in thoughts and prayers to conceive. Not that praying without ceasing is bad, but when you let your thoughts and desires consume you and take you away from life you need to be still and let God handle it.

It's kinda funny, I've been reading scripture on women that prayed for children. And nowhere have I found a woman that did more than bring her petition before the Lord and leave it there....of course it always says that her husband knew her after that and the Lord remembered her. So I guess it is time for me to relax and get to know my hubby better ;) . All joking aside, I totally believe in praying for the things that we want and need, but to keep begging seems like a distrusting thing to do. I know that I tell my kids that I heard their request and I will take care of it. They don't need to keep begging me for what I WANT to do for them. Anyway, just my take.

Oh, and She, my hubby and I always laughed that when we decided to have a baby we didn't even wait for the missed cycle....when that day came around we just took the test and poof! Guess I was spoiled the times before and need to patient this time around. I don't know that I have ever prayed for this kind of miracle before (devine surgery reversal) and it has thrown me for a loop! :eek:

CrystalB9
06-05-2004, 11:30 AM
Brook - You sound like me. For years I prayed and too many times let it consume me to become pregnant. I still have to remind myself at times with many things to let go and let God. I have some control issues and its stupid because ultimatly God has final say so. I am still learning to this day to give it all to Him. My hubby laughs at me because to help me with this I imagine God sitting at His throne and I put whatever it is that I am worried about at His feet. Just that little visual in my head really helps me to let go and let God. :) He knows my hearts desire. I have many times read Jer. 29:11 when I let other things worry me.
God has provided a financial way for us to have a vasectomy reversal. It was truly a miricle how it came about. We have just started trying to get pregnant. :)

Crystal

TinaTx
06-06-2004, 08:56 PM
Jackie.

I told you how I got the second son, in the Virgin Islands?:o My mother said *yeah a lot of good that trip did you!*

You know, I didn't think about this? But I hope the *island name* goes through!mmmmmmm it might be censored girls...dunno...let me see.